Happy Father's Day

I titled this “Happy Father’s Day” for a reason. Have you ever paid attention to how little attention we pay to Father’s Day compared to Mother’s Day in our society? We all know the reasons why. Usually it is because the mother’s are known for pulling most of the load. But we spend lots of money on that day and we go to church on that day…But we could also do those same things on Father’s Day as well, it lands on a Sunday too.

But we have to give honor to the Fathers that are still out there being the father’s they are supposed to be. And in some cases we have to let them be the fathers that they want to be (ladies). Let me help you understand what I mean…In some cases women feel that a father is not being a father unless he is actually in the home doing what she is doing. To her that is what help is all about. I understand the fantasy but that is all it is a fantasy. We have to move beyond the fantasy into reality, for the sake of the children.

We do have some fathers out there that really want to be just that, a father. Not a husband, boyfriend or significant other, just a father. Just because he was not that good of a mate for you does not mean they will not be a good father. Trust me, I know, I have a great one myself but my mother would tell you he was not that great a husband, doesn’t matter to me that was between them, I love them both the same. But I love them both. Have you ever noticed that the word never mentions Parent as a singular noun, no not once, if it is in there then show me.

I guess my point is, that we need to allow them to be the Great Fathers that they truly want to be (if it is in them) and I stress if it is in them because in order to be a father you have to also be present as a father. It is not about just paying child support because the word says in 2Corinthians12:14 “Now I am coming to you for the third time, and I will not be a burden to you. I don't want what you have; I want you. And anyway, little children don't pay for their parents' food. It's the other way around; parents supply food for their children.” In other words child support is something you have to do but it goes hand in hand with taking that time out to be with your child. The word never mentions a child without a father unless the mother is a widow. Which means while you are still breathing you are to be there in their life.

This is the part of love that we need to understand, we have heard that there are different kinds of love, but in the Greek love actually means AGAPE and in the Hebrew it means Abigail which also translates as “my father is joy.” Hence the reason why scripture describes God as purely LOVE. So if we are made in the image of God and are to do likewise shouldn’t we be the joy of our children? Someone they can look up to and admire and want to be like?

A child wants to know who they look like, who they talk like why the think the way they do. How better to answer these questions than to simply be there. I have 2 little girls and when I am in the mirror putting on my make-up they watch my every move, when I am brushing my teeth, they watch my every move, when I am putting on my stockings they are watching my every move, but guess what, when I am not paying attention they are watching my every move…In Deuteronomy 4:9 it says “Only be careful, and watch yourselves closely so that you do not forget the things your eyes have seen or let them slip from your heart as long as you live. Teach them to your children and to their children after them.”

Now back to the fathers that do have the opportunity and have taken on that roll with vigor, I say HAPPY FATHER’S DAY from this day forward! Thank you for being, great, kind, loving, giving and awesome. If no one has ever said thank you for being a great father, I will tell you. Thank you from me to you and I pray that every day is a Happy Father’s Day!