Judge Her Fairly Sister

I was going to name this “Sister I’m Sorry” or “I’m Sorry Sister” but try as I might, the words were not coming to me. So the title that best fit what I was trying to say was, “Judge Her Fairly Sister”. The reason behind this is because women can say I love you and really say it with passion but I find myself asking if they really mean it. I can only speak on this from a sister to sister point of view so sorry fellas if you feel left out, we will speak on that another time.

We sing songs to say “I Need You, You Need Me, We’re All a Part of God’s Body”…and it is a beautiful song but are we even living what we are singing? In this day and time we really and truly need each other as women. We understand how one another feels and we understand how we think. Believe it or not we all think alike so why can’t we feel one another’s pain or carry one another’s burdens? The word says in Galatians 6:2 Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Don’t you know to this also means to sustain, uphold or support. Some scholars would say to take up in order to carry one’s self. Basically it all means the same thing. We are to carry one another, no matter what the cost, no matter what the issue. The reason is because we are supposed to understand what we as woman are going through.

I think our problem is that we don’t think about how we judge, the word never said do not judge as a matter of fact is says that we ought to, but….it says in Leviticus 9:15 “Do not pervert justice; do not show partiality to the poor or favoritism to the great, but judge your neighbor fairly”, which to me would mean that we are to love anyway no matter the clothes she wears, the way she speaks or how she is carrying herself. Love her first to know how to fairly judge her. You would be surprised what you find out. You may be surprised to find out what she has been through. But in actuality the surprise comes when you find out that she comes very close to you and what you have been through.

It just may be that her secret is out and yours isn’t. Doesn’t the word say in Matthew 7:4 “Or how can you say to your sister, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye?” I’m trying to help you love your sister more. See her from another perspective. See her from yours. Look at her and think to yourself, it could be me or it was me. I’m just trying to help you love your sister more.

I have often heard us say, when it comes to certain issues, hmmm let me pick a subject, Men….”She’s stupid, why would she go back to him after that, why she let him treat her that way”. Why did you? What were you thinking at the time of “stuck on stupid”. She needs to know that you actually went through the same thing, She needs to know that you came out of it and most of all she needs to know how you came out of it. Judge her fairly Sister.

Let’s pick another subject…the clothes she wears. “Why don’t she fix her hair”, “She say she wants a husband but she can’t get one dressed like that”. Did you give her clothes to wear or pay to get her hair done or if you know how, did you offer to do it? Did you take the time out to help her dress herself? It may be that she was never taught or no one ever told her that she was truly a beautiful sister. When I was in high school, I had a Fashion teacher. She was not a pretty woman by any means, She was sloo-footed, with eyes like a fish but she carried herself with poise and glamour, always dressed to the tee, you would have thought she was a supermodel. She never raised her voice and was always kind and always told us how beautiful we were. To this day I believe she was one of the most beautiful women I knew. Judge her fairly Sister.

This is a great subject...the amount of children she has…”You mean she has four kids and no daddy?”, “You mean she got pregnant at 16?”. I mean she got caught and you didn’t. Do you mean you never had sex until you were married, you never had a miscarriage, you never had an abortion or abortionsssss? How far away is she from you Sister? How far away is she from the way you think? You were ecstatic when that man asked you to marry him and in some cases you were already married, but it just was not the case with her, maybe he did not ask. Is that her fault, in a way yes, but the point is, how far away is she from you? How far away is her thinking from yours.

Just remember this thought, “I need you, you need me, we’re all a part of God’s Body” We need each other, so judge her fairly Sister and Sister, I’m sorry if I didn’t and I find myself loving you a little more.